We often focus all our attention and energy on the outcome, the goal, the destination where happiness will finally be there waiting for us, but the real magic and bliss is found in the journey. Danielle Laporte is right on point with this little gem:
“The journey has to feel the way you want the destination to feel.”
We hang on to expectations, we fall in the comparison trap. We've all been there. We compare our adventure's beginning to someone else's middle, we beat ourselves up for not achieving our goals and feel bad about the to-do lists that never get done. The monkey mind taking up the space. Telling ourselves that we'll truly be happy when we find the right job, the perfect relationship, the dream house, the abundance of money sitting in the bank account, and all the in-betweens. But as soon as we have them, we want more and it ends up not being enough. So we experience happiness for a lightning of a moment until our minds look for another goal, another desire to fill up the empty space that the last goal left us with. The problem with that is we're looking for happiness outside of ourselves, relying on things, people, projects to give us that deep soul feeling we've been longing for.
“Perfection is shallow, unreal, and fatally uninteresting.”
It's time to drop the perfection. Perfection is overrated. It will keep us stuck in that "never enough" state. So it's time to pause and celebrate the little successes, the baby steps you dared to take, the moments of blissful messiness. One thing I learned in my yoga teacher training is the meaning and positive power of contentment. Contentment is a space in between. It's being ok with what is. Finding satisfaction where you are. It might not be what you've hoped for but being content about what you have might be your best option to find peace within yourself. We have a choice on how we respond to life, we can let life happen to us or we can create a life aligned with our hearts - it might be messy, but it will be ours. Finding joy in the simple moments, surrendering to the experience.
When you find that sweet space, it will create a feeling of expansion, of spaciousness, where you'll feel good with where you are, able to appreciate the present moment instead of waiting for the next one. It's not about dropping the ambitious desires and dream projects but achieving goals and setting intentions from a place of contentment make the dream chasing flow with more ease as it doesn't come from a place of lack.
"The mind is everything. What you think, you become." Buddha
What if you chased butterflies in your belly instead of a bland list of "shoulds" ? Going for more belly laughs, surrounding yourself with beautiful souls, showering your life with gratitude, embracing simplicity, practicing mindfulness, cherishing the moment. Start that project, that dream now, start before you're ready. It's a daily practice and might require efforts to change our thoughts and mindset but it is so worth it.
"The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. "